condescending

adjective

con·​de·​scend·​ing ˌkän-di-ˈsen-diŋ 

: showing or characterized by a patronizing or superior attitude toward others

condescendingly

ˌkän-di-ˈsen-diŋ-lē 

adverb

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What is the difference between condescending and patronizing?

Very few words in English have exactly the same meaning; even words which appear to be entirely synonymous often will be found to have small differences in certain contexts. The words condescending and patronizing present a fine example of this. At first glance these words appear to be defined somewhat circularly: condescending often has the word "patronizing" in its definition, and patronize is defined, in part, as “to adopt an air of condescension toward.”

But both of these words have specialized senses that lend a shade of meaning to their synonymous senses. Patronizing can mean "giving support to" or "being a customer of," suggesting that the "condescending" sense implies superiority gained through a donor-dependent relationship.

The verb condescend used to be free of any hint of the offensive superiority it usually suggests today. It could mean literally "to go or come down" or, figuratively, "to willingly lower oneself to another’s level," senses that are still occasionally encountered in writings on the Bible. The idea of self-consciously lowering oneself is implied in the "patronizing" sense of condescending.

Examples of condescending in a Sentence

The next big sequel to roll off the assembly line (awful, condescending phrase, but this is a case of what you have to do when the shoe fits) is going to be a sequel to "Rebecca," Daphne du Maurier's classic 1930's suspense novel. —Stephen King, New York Times Book Review, 6 June 1993

… when the picturesque was seen close up, the "happy poverty" of the peasant was not always happy. There was something unpleasantly condescending, an element of esthetic slumming in the tourist's or the artist's view of picturesqueness. —Anatole Broyard, New York Times Book Review, 1 Oct. 1989

I always imagined publishers were rather snarky and condescending and made a point of crabbing one's work, but he didn't a bit. —Elizabeth Bowen, letter, 19 Jan. 1923

His comments were offensive and condescending to us.

Recent Examples on the Web

Yes, Emily goes on to flip her condescending date the bird before bombarding a top Parisian designer in his box—two decidedly un-Audrey gestures. —Lilah Ramzi, Vogue, 11 Sep. 2024

That problem is compounded by a sizable chunk of the French electorate’s view of him as highhanded, condescending and arrogant — a former investment banker, the product of elite schools, unversed in the problems of ordinary people. —Lee Hockstader, Washington Post, 1 July 2024

The Post does readers a disservice by employing incredibly condescending stereotypes about the Mexican people. —Washington Post, 14 June 2024

The Mommy Wars and the Child Care Cliff The mommy wars (which is a silly condescending name for a silly, condescending thing) are obviously nothing new. —Zara Hanawalt, Parents, 4 Oct. 2023

Word History

Etymology

see condescend

First Known Use

1881, in the meaning defined above